Adults/ parents: PLEASE READ! What do I say to my childs Grandparents?
Question by cupidgirl: Adults/ parents: PLEASE READ! What do I say to my childs Grandparents?
They’re her father’s parents- I have raised my daughter alone her entire life because her father never had anything to do with her (I had her at a very young & naive age)- he died in a car accident as a result of his reckless lifestyle- just to give you some background… I personally dont care for the character of most in their family but I facilitate their interaction w/ my daughter because their son died…
anyway, I decided to put my daughter in private middle school & told her grandparents a month ago & they agreed to pay for her tuition. It was due on Aug 1st & they called w/ some excuse, then another, then another and even told me , “oh, just write a check it will be there-” well, I didnt because I dont ever do that unless the funds are IN my acct- so, basically if I had the check would have bounced, been returned to the school, and they may have bumped my daughter off the roster to open it to a child on the wait list- which didnt happen because I went in there & started a pmt plan & made the 1st pmt. (this does create a strain for me on top of all her extras but I WILL find a way to make it work as usual) Anyway, her grandparents wont even anwser the phone! Its like total lack of care or accountability for the disaster they could have just created if I had no other resource! Seriously- what do I even SAY the next time I ever talk to them again!?
(btw, they’re always going on about what devout Christians they are- what a joke)
and to Tara L-
The money is not the point- if you read my entire post you would see that I have made arrangements to pay for her tuition & will do it on my own-
They offered to do this for her & the issue I have is the lack of decency on their part to come through with what they promised their grandaughter, & the indecency to even call me or answer the phone to explain-
I dont care about the money. I DO care about the character of people & I find theirs to be very dishonorable by the way they’re handling this. If they had called to explain then hey- no problem. But they just disappear when responsibility stands before them- Thats the point-
& Im not speaking negatively about “the dead”- just simply stating facts to give people an idea of the background of the situation. The truth is he was drug addicted & never took care of his daughter. Thats it. Too bad if you dont like how it sounds because you didnt have to live with it- my daughter & I DID.
They have been nothing but irresponsible liars in our lives & despite that I keep my daughter in their lives for THEIR sake because their son died. There is absolutely no benefit in it for my daughter or myself whatsoever. So before you accuse me of using people you need to have your facts straight.
& PS- to say they “raised” their kids is an over-statement.
& I dont need you to remind me to raise my own- in fact, I have done that alone & well for 12 years with the help of no one.
& for “Critter”
get real. pity party? Excuse me, I have raised my daughter exceptionally well & not by asking help from or complaining to anyone-
its the character of these people, not their lack of monetary contribution I have a problem with-
they offered so I used a lot of funds recently for extra-curriculars I wouldnt have otherwise for my daughter assuming they would be good for their word- and at the last min they disappear w/ no explanation? A little shady for grandparents to do & yeah- Im pissed that they COULD have put us in a very bad situation & would have no conscience about it-
Answer by Julie H
They may not have the money. Just call them, be nice and ask when they are going to send the money because you need it to pay the tuition. If they aren’t going to pay, and you can’t pay, then she will need to go to public school. You might also check to see if there is some kind of scholarship for your daughter at the school because her Dad is dead. Are you collecting Social Security for her? I would say that they probably have huge expenses and kind of overestimated having the money to pay you. Be nice. They may come up with the money and solve your problem. If you aren’t nice, they won’t bother to try.
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